Continuing from my blog post yesterday titled The Importance of Feeling What You Feel… and Being at Peace With It, there were a couple of nuggets of wisdom in there that I would like to highlight. We are all feeling some level of uncertainty these days with Coronavirus, the state of affairs in our political…
FINDING JOY IN UNCERTAINTY
How Not To Be A Mess – 16 Tenets for an Easy Peasy Life
If Office Depot can create a metaphorical (yet physical) Easy Button, why can’t you have a real one- or at least rules to live by that will give you the easy, peaceful life you want. You know, free from conflict where we aren’t perpetually mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically exhausted. That life. Where unicorns and…
Tough Lover Post Alert!
You feel bummed. A constant, low level disappointment at how life turned out. Except sometimes you’re pissed about it. Occasionally you’re confused about it, like how did this happen? Where did it go wrong? Mostly you accept it. Most of your friends aren’t living the dream either. They’re no happier than you. Well, I’m calling…
If you aren’t getting the results you want, change your approach
Saying things like, “I’ve tried everything” and “nothing works” is giving yourself permission to quit. The words: always, nothing, ever, never, and everything” are rarely true. You haven’t tried everything or you’d have what you want. It’s that simple. It’s ok if you quit. It just means you don’t want whatever “it” is badly enough….
Are you the leader or a bystander in your life?
The difference? Leaders understand that they’re in charge of making things happen. If they don’t like something, they change it. Simple as that. As a leader, you understand that you call the shots. You ask questions and get answers. You support others because you are supported. Everyone else (your attorney, accountant, boss, coworkers, partner, friends)…
Don’t be one of them.
You will encounter people who will try to make you less than you are, offer you less than you deserve and try to get you to settle for less than you want. Don’t be one of them. You may already be in the rut of settling, tolerating and putting up with a job where they…
Where the f*ck is my self-esteem?
There is no one certain age when our self-esteem takes a hike. If only it were even ball park predictable, when it will happen, like learning to walk or losing our first tooth. If only parents could anticipate it and guide us through it. Or if it happens as an adult, if we knew in…
There are better ways to meet your needs…
If a problem is sticking around, it isn’t because you don’t know how to solve it, it’s because it’s meeting two or more of your human needs. Chaos, difficulties, constant strife, is not your lot in life. For example, if it seems like you get one (or five) problem solved and another one (or five)…
Sound like you?
*She may have had adverse childhood experiences (narcissistic, cold or absent parent or parents, abuse, neglect) that she has possibly repeated as an adult or she has become the abuser of herself. And wants things to be different and better. This has made her a people pleaser, excessive giver and possibly codependent and as a…
